Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Too Nice Could Hurt You

Being too nice could hurt you. I agree with this phrase. Through my own experience and observation of people lives, I saw this happened in workplace, relationship and lots more. You could be treated and labelled as a doormat to serve their purposes or bullied for their own pleasures. 

Being nice amongst friends or family will definitely earn a title of ‘good friend or buddy’ or sometimes labelled as a friend who will accept anything and everything thrown at. To serve the title of ‘good friend or good buddy’ you will run around to help your friends in needs. Sometimes this could lead to bullying. Have you ever experience that your opinion are not matter to them? Or you become practical jokes because they expect you will never retaliate? Or being put in front of fighting or argument because you are too nice to be ‘punch’? 

In workplace, I encountered some colleagues took advantage by trying to offload their share of work, bosses gives more work and you’ll received tons of compliments like ‘nice job! You are the man! I count on you!’ Through years of observation, being nice could cause you lost your opportunity of promotion. Why? Because you are too nice to be a Leader/Manager! Nice person usually don’t make a great managers. 

Everyone dreamed to have a romantic and nice partner because it is compliment to each other. But sometimes this habit may backfire you because you have to be ‘nice’ in every situations!. Sound not good? Have you ever feel that you are the one who always to bow down or taking the blame out of arguments? Or your partner takes off any of the plans ahead without asking you? Or find yourself doing all the works by thinking it is your responsibilities because you must be nice to your partner?. You may not see the signs that your partner is taking advantage on you. He/she will not respect your opinion or not even discuss any matters to you because your partner may take you for granted thinking like “He/she is too nice, He/she won’t say anything, He/she will accept no matter what I say,”. 

I know being nice to people around you is a right thing to do because life is about spreading love and sharing joy. But life is not a fairytales and hardly to see ‘happily ever after’ moments. In this century everyone are opt to coloured their own life. Climb our own ‘ladder’ of life. Our niceness could harm our way. The obvious ‘harm’ is people may take emotional, moral or financial advantage on you simply because you are being nice and don’t have the heart to say no. It’s happened to me before. Not just that, my voice or complain for the lack of service or faulty product are not being ‘heard’. 

Wonder why I wrote this post? Above situations happened in front of my nose this morning. Blessed to those nice persons and screwed to those bullies!!

14 comments:

  1. well...sometimes I do feel tired of being 'nice' all the time. But I believe what we give, we'll get it back. God is good. =)

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  2. Angel,
    Faith and passion comes along :)

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  3. Too nice could hurt but i think i still choose to be nice. But to be nice in a neat and tidy way. You need to be smart about it and be firm. :)

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  4. Stella,
    We should be nice but not too nice hahhaa...

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  5. Hehe..I get what you mean. Sometimes when you are too 'nice' people forget you have feelings too. So the word here is, there must be a balance. We have to learn to say 'No' when we mean No.. :)

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    1. Exactly Angie...I agree with you. Too nice would not just harm us but also to them.

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  6. Agree with Angie.. there is a limit to everything.. but being nice is actually ...er.. nice! It makes us happy when we are being nice and others are nice to us too. :)

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    1. Everybody like nice things so do I. But once they take you for granted that will be no so nice. So yes..everything must have limit..

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  7. so, did anyone take advantage of your good nature recently?

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    1. All the time Doc but it's still acceptable because I do apply the limit. I just cannot accept those nice things been taken for granted especially to some people. The people who do not know or does not have a courage to stand for themselves.

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