Letting Go In Valentine..

Many people have their stories about relationship with loved ones either it is family, partner, friends or colleagues. The stories of being hurts, cheated or betrayed. And some people have experiencing something terrible themselves and carry a burden of guilt and shame. Hurt can be especially excruciating if it is inflicted by someone we thought cared for us or someone who is supposed to love us. This sort of incongruity can make us crazy. We just can’t believe it. It makes us so overwhelmed, confused, shocked or wounded that we become fixated on our misfortune. We just can’t get over it. It’s easy to feel self-pity or even to become sour on life, bitter and twisted. If we are the injured party we might rage at injustice, feel hatred for those who hurt us, construct elaborate fantasies of revenge. We can become obsessed with our pain.

I have a friend who have been betrayed by her own good friend. The one who supposed to be part of her life. The double betrayal was more than she could endure. Like many people her life is in limbo and will remain so until she manages to let go of her pain and outrage. She is the only one suffering and she is hurting herself as least as much as her happy time with her ex. I’m not only talking about her (but also to me hehehhehee… )

For our own sakes, for peace of mind and our future happiness we must let go of what we cannot change and forgive for all the wrong things happen not just for them but also for ourself. We need to mentally, emotionally and perhaps physically detach and disengage from the people who hurt us, the events we cannot change, the problems we cannot solve. We know that nothing and no one can change what is past. Obsessing about past events locks us into reacting rather than acting independently. It reduces our freedom. We are a slave to the past.

The good things that we can do is to revenge it by living well, live in the moment and allow life to happen, let go of regrets about the pasts and fear of the future for what it might be happen and refuse to carry the burden of bitterness and resentment which stop us from being happy.

‘God grant me the serenity. To accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference’

Since this is month of Valentine the love thingy one.. I like to wish Happy Valentine to all people I love and to be love. But very seldom people want to wish ‘Happy Valentine’ for those who hurt them kan? hehhehe…anyway forgiving love is the greatest love of all. Even it is difficult but it’s worth for life…. Even though I might not celebrate it, but I’ll treasure all the loves which is given to me and shared it around..hehehheheee..